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Monday, September 6, 2010

Stages of Human Suffering

Denial- it is always our first reaction when some unusual circumstance is happening to us. If it is good circumstances that arrives or come to us, at first we're ashame to accept it but feeling excited inside, there is the feeling that, "wow amazing, and very nice."  But if it is misfortune like acquiring a dreadful diseases, passing away of love ones, involvement in civil or criminal case, at first we always deny it because it is hard, hurting, and great burden to face those situation that comes in our life, immediately our reaction is, "I wish it is not mine or it is not true."
Anger- if we can't accept anything that happens or arrive, usually we get angry, trying to put blame on others or anything. Sometimes we hurt others or destroy things and materials, we even get drunk with alcohol or take drugs just to forget and give comfort to ourselves, and the worst thing if we can't take it is committing suicide or hurting ourself. 
Bargaining-still we can't accept what happens, if we are dying or has dreaded diseases, we promise and commit ourselves to do what is needed and perform better. If love ones past away, we still wish that some miracle will happen and will do everything just to have his life back, we even volunteer to give our life.
Depression-it is the most difficult part and stage, the saddest part. This time you will realize that this is it, there is no way to go back and correct what had happen. Facing the reality, feeling sad and down, sometimes you think that nobody cares and loves you because of what had happen, it is just like the heaven had fall down on you. It feels like you have lost all your strength in fighting the challenge that arrive in your life.
Acceptance-after the fight and struggle with Denial, Anger, Bargaining, and Depression, you are now ready to accept them. They are now passing, letting them free and go, although this is the final stage, that you are now accepting yourself as a loser, still the pain is there, but keeping it will not let you free. We must get ready to accept anything not good that happen, it hurts but it will bring and leave strength to face a new beginning. If we lost someone, take time to ponder on the good and happy moment that you were together, not all the days that come and pass with their presence are bad and not fruitful, of course you share some laugh together before, those are the things and memories that will inspire us and will make us remember them. Let us put in mind that no one stay and live forever, if there is a welcome eventually the next is goodbye.  Let the dawn of new day give us strength and hope to start new beginning, and will move on.

God will bless. 


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